Criticism

Criticize me.

Encouragement has supplanted constructive criticism in today's society. Don't get me wrong- I'm all for encouragment- but too much encouragement devalues its meaning. What is a trophy worth if everyone has one?

The problem is that criticism has acquired a negative connotation. In fact, the American Heritage Dictionary's definition of criticism is "the act of criticizing, especially adversely", while the true, original meaning of the word implies simply analyzing and evaluating (which is a good thing). People tend to think of criticism as being judgemental or severe, but it's not. To critique is positive. It enables improvement.


Some recent experiences giving presentations are examples of this phenomenon. Though I'm glad I have people supporting me, I can't get any criticism out of them. Tell me I've done a good job, but only if I really did. And if I did do a good job, tell me why and tell me what could be better. You won't offend me- I have an enormous head. I crave criticism. Assuming that I need my self-esteem boosted offends me more than telling me what's wrong with me; the second is useful, and utility is what really matters. The thing is, I can't tell how I'm doing, at least not nearly as well as you can. I need you to tell me.

Give me your opinions- your real opinions. Tell me what could be better, tell me why, and if you can, tell me how to fix it. Not just in regards to teaching- I want to know what you think about me, about my writing, about my choices. Criticize everything about me.

Don't worry- I won't be hostile. I won't anger. I won't get upset. You won't hurt my feelings. I won't turn around and criticize you in retaliation. (Retaliation- what a stupid concept.) Even on the off chance that you do upset me, I won't hold it against you. Kick me in the face if I do, then show me this.